The First Gate – Powerful Effective Recovery Training Program
Our Acknowledgment of Our Problems
What is Five Gates Program:
The Five Gates Program is a form of Cognitive or Person Centered Psychotherapy. It is unique for its Fifth Gates which operates through a powerful healing principle Dr. Kesselman has labeled The Inverted Pyramid Effect, which is the remarkable healing engine by which people in reviewing sequentially the events in their lives and finding a logical explanations for each of their psychological pains specially Anxieties and Depressions, are able to experience the triggering of Clearing healing all of the later consequences and confusions associated with the psychological difficulties that has caused them to want to take the Five Gates Program.
In the First Gate, we shall focus on the first important truth, the step/key that unlocks the first gate. I have been powerless over something in me that causes me to believe and feel, to think and therefore act in ways that diminish my happiness.
What our actual behaviors are don’t matter, whether it’s takings drugs, gambling, obsessing or any other behavior that we use to fix our fear. What is important in the First Gate is to recognize and accept that our negative behaviors are causes of unhappiness in our lives and to know that they are all driven by our anxieties.
Your job while traveling through the first gate is to identify something in yourself that is diminishing your happiness. To do this we start by understanding our feelings. We must accept any limitations without judging ourselves inadequate. Accepting those limitations is a big part of journeying through the first gate.
Accept that the present is the result of all that happened in the past. Accept that everything you can’t do you shouldn’t do and the only thing to do is try to manage yourself better. You will see that changing yourself is the greatest form of self-empowerment.
All you need from the First Gate is to accept the truth that problems that reduce our feelings of well-being are inside of us.
How do I know when I’ve successfully crossed The First Gate?
You have successfully crossed The First Gate when you believe and accept the first truth: I have been powerless over something in me that causes me to believe and feel, to think and therefore act in ways that diminish my happiness.
It’s not the world around us, but fears and anxieties within us that are the root of our problems. There is a life-altering connection between what we believe and how we act. If you can see and accept this, you have passed through he First Gate successfully.
Another way to look at it
Yoda from Star Wars
“I know that I know nothing” – Socrates. Up until now you may have been suffering because you don’t know the true causes of your internal pains, let alone how to relieve them. You have to realize that not only is something inside of you causing you pain, but also that You have been powerless to it.
Everything that is preventing you from being happy is inside of you. No external stimuli, no matter how strong, directly controls your thoughts and feelings. All external stimuli is processed internally before you have a thought, feeling, or even an action related to it. If a ball is thrown at you, the visual stimuli of the ball in the air coming at you may be processed as “something is coming at me” -> “what is it?” -> “it’s a ball” -> “what should I do?” -> “can I catch it?” -> “yes, send the action to the body to catch it.” However, over time this process gets more and more ingrained in us that we don’t consciously have these thoughts any more, we just catch the ball. The problem arises in this process when questions are improperly answered such as “does the ball hate me?” -> “yes” or “why was a ball thrown at me? -> “because you deserve it.”
Lets bring up a classic movie series that many people are familiar with, Star Wars. Yoda claims that the path to the dark side is “Fear leads to Anger leads to Hate leads to Suffering.” This is true in the fact that what starts as an unchecked fear eventually leads you to suffering. Anger and Hate are simply the children of Fear, and without Fear you can’t have either Anger or Hate, let alone suffering. Later you will learn that by finding the causes of your fears and watching them evolve you will be able to see the causes of your suffering.
The Second Gate
In the Second Gate we will find the sources of our Fears and Children of Our Fears.