The Third Gate

What is Five Gates Program?

The Five Gates Program is a form of Cognitive or Person Centered Psychotherapy. It is unique for its Fifth Gates which operates through a powerful healing principle Dr. Kesselman has labeled The Inverted Pyramid Effect, which is the remarkable healing engine by which people in reviewing sequentially the events in their lives and finding a logical explanations for each of their psychological pains specially Anxieties and Depressions, are able to experience the triggering of Clearing healing all of the later consequences and confusions associated with the psychological difficulties that has caused them to want to take the Five Gates Program.

Passing through the Third Gate we commit to changing ourselves by changing how we think and what we do. Say to yourself I want to learn, accept and practice living by the positive principles that work best in my reality as it really is, not the negative ones caused by my fears.

You really can manage your life more successfully by positive principles of thought and action and more accurate reality rules. Principles and rules that will give us a happier, more productive life.

Now don’t worry if you can’t see your way to doing this right now. You might not be able to live by positive principles just yet. But don’t worry, by the time you’ve successfully completed the Fifth Gate, you will be able to. Five Gates graduates sometimes have recurrences of using, but rarely, if ever relapse as long as you remain true to your core goal.

The Third Gate is here to show you that there really is an achievable and scientific method by which you can manage your life for greater happiness. We are doing core training, our goal is to achieve the enlightenment-driven spiritual awakening that results from finishing all five gates.

Here are some principles from the positive reality rules in the Third Gate for you to think about:

  • If I can’t do something, it can’t be my job. – Sounds simple enough, right? But many people go through life accepting that other people can hold them responsible for doing what they cannot do. The internal battle causes anxiety and until we find the hope that relieves that anxiety, we’re very vulnerable to depression.
  • I cannot change the past. – You must never believe that changing the past could be your job. For all practical purposes, you must accept that the past is perfect since none of us have any way of knowing that anything was ever different than it should’ve been. Besides, since we can’t change the past, the most positive belief we can adopt is that the past was perfect in every way.
    The present is also perfect. Now there’s no conflict between saying that and also saying that you want to bring about change. I say this because the present is just the inevitable, logical and completely certain result of the past. It is perfect for being the present, but not perfect for being the future. In the here and now, our only job is to act in ways that will bring about a future that we desire to the best of our ability.
  • My only job is to manage me to the best of my ability. – You can’t move someone else’s finger or make them think your thoughts. We did manage ourselves in the past, and maybe didn’t get the outcome we wanted, but we can’t change that. What we can do, though, is change the future by living these principles in the present.
  • Everything is and always will be exactly as it should be. – This Third Gate principle is designed to bring us to a state of peace. Sure, you can’t be passive about things that you can actually affect, but everything else, just accept things for what they are. We shouldn’t give any energy or thoughts on worrying about things we cannot change.
  • We accept that we have no power over anything or anyone whatsoever, except limited control over our own behavior and thoughts. – We might have influence on the world around us but we can’t know or control any outcomes.
  • We accept that it does us no good to be preoccupied with what others think or do. – In other words, it’s none of our business. Our codependency is a symptom of our not seeing this and not accepting it. Just focus on trying to do the next right thing.
  • Nothing happens by mistake or outside the rules of reality. – We should be constantly learning those rules so we won’t be surprised or need to be superstitious.

The positive principles of the Third Gate.

  1. Our world reflects us. If we put positive actions, ideas and feelings into the world around us, we will perceive a more positive world for ourselves.
  2. What we put out, we get back, whether it’s a smile at a stranger or a grimace. If we are positive, the world will welcome us in a positive, loving manner.
  3. The only thing we can do perfectly is be ourselves. No one is perfect, we all have fear some of the time. Our error is in our failure to improve our understanding and our inability to do positive acts. Judge no one as being different than they should be, including yourself.
  4. Many things that are our business aren’t our fault. After all, fault is a judgmental concept and has no place in sane living, personal development or happiness. Everything comes about as a result of external influences affecting us and others. But we can never excuse ourselves from trying to fix what’s broken because that is our business.
  5. We accept that it does us no good to resent anything at all. Being resentful is emotionally draining and might just make us take foolish actions. Not a good place to be and definitely not a part of living a successful life.
  6. We accept the world without complaining about it unless that complaint is part of a useful, constructive and realistic effort to bring about positive changes.
  7. We accept that we can consciously only do one thing at a time. I’m not saying we can’t multitask, but we really are made to focus on one thing at a time. Train yourself to calm down, step back and make constructive plans or decisions.
  8. We accept enough to justify taking needless destructive actions. that constructive intentions aren’t good. You know what they say, the road to Hell is paved with good intentions. It is never ok to break from good principles even if we believe it’s a good motive.
  9. We accept that whenever we’re upset, we’re fearful about something and fear isn’t useful in helping us to do the right thing.
  10. We accept that we must try to do each next thing exactly in harmony with loving motives and behavior principles. Try performing acts of kindness and service for others and ourselves and not bring harm. When we help others we should take care not to worry about what’s in it for us. The world is good to those who are generous.
  11. Everyone always did, is doing and always will do the best they can at managing themselves. It doesn’t do any good to believe anything else is true. People don’t intentionally try to do less than their best, even if it doesn’t appear that way.
  12. We must strive to see the ways in which we’re exactly like everyone else. Society often focuses on the differences between people, rather than the similarities. Think about it, to a grasshopper we all look alike, we have basically the same intelligence and we all smell equally bad. By seeing our similarities, we can feel one another’s pain and celebrate each other’s joy. It gives us a great sense of comfort and inspiration for higher morality, generosity and love.

How do I know when I’ve successfully crossed The Third Gate?

The Third Gate is unique in the fact that you never “complete” it. You are either living by positive reality rules and positive principles or your not. All you need to do the first time through is understand the positive principles of the Third Gate. A complete understanding usually comes after your completion of The Fifth Gate and you return to this “Golden Gate” of the Five Gates Program.

Another way to look at it

We’ve broken this into 2 sections, Pre- and Post-Fifth Gate.

Pre-Fifth Gate

Before you’ve taken your Fifth Gate, it may seem hard or even impossible to accept these rules and principles. That is why acceptance isn’t required your first time through The Third Gate; However, understanding is. Above is only a short list of Reality Rules based on the Positive Principles.

Chances are that you already knew and accepted a couple of the Positive Principles (perhaps in a different wording) above before you even heard about The Five Gates Program. That’s because theses Principles are so true they are taught in many different forms. Things like “Do unto others, as you wish done unto you”, “don’t see your differences, see your similarities,” and so on.

Post-Fifth Gate

Coming back to The Third Gate is never a negative experience. Even when we stray far away, we may be reminded of what we would consider mistakes, but if you are truly living by the positive principles you already know that “The Past is Perfect.” It’s our expectations that are flawed. Everything that happened, happened for a reason, even if we have no idea what that reason is.

When you come back to your Third Gate, you may want to continue on to your Fourth and Fifth Gates. Maybe not completely, but you definitely have a new chapter or two to add to your life story since you last took the Five Gates.

The Fourth Gate

In the Fourth Gate we are now going to go back in time and blueprint your past. This is by far the longest part of the Five Gates Program, and is also one of the most critical.

Continue to Fourth Gate

Rabbi Dr. Lynn Kesselman began his career in psychotherapy as the result of his own severe depressive disorder occasioned by alcoholism as a coping mechanism. He is partly self-taught, his degrees having been awarded through the original contributions he has made to this field. He is the developer of ?The Structured Brief Time-Limited Psychotherapy?, better known as the Five Gates Program of Recovery. Learn more…